Recently I wrote an article about how to give a good first impression and that you don’t get a second chance to give a first impression. But almost everything else in life you DO get a second chance if you pursue it and leave the past behind you.
A new beginning with small changes and habits you need to stop doing can make a huge impact in your life and here are a few ideas to get you started:
Stop trying to be someone you’re not – With the ‘system’ we live in we are forced to become what other people want us to become. What I sometimes say is that “we are born to succeed but programmed to fail” by our society. Don’t fall into this trap; step outside the box and make your own opinion of who you want to be and how you plan to do it.
Stop Complaining – The easiest thing to do in life is to complain and blame others for all the things that are going wrong in your life. Stop doing this! Any fool can do it and any fool can use excuses. Different problems and obstacles that come your way are just a mere test of your character. Will you be knocked down or will you prevail? No-one wants to be around a complainer so pick yourself up and handle it. Take responsibility of your own life.
Stop being scared of making mistakes – One of the great things when you’re in your 40’s like I am is that you can look back and see the mistakes you have made in the past. Now to dwell on them is a huge mistake, but to learn from them is a privilege. Being your own teacher from experience you will understand that the more mistakes you make the more you learn. It gives you the chance to not make the same mistakes again because you already know of the consequences first hand, but it also encourages you to challenge new things and not be afraid of making mistakes. It’s a win-win situation.
Stop spending time with the wrong people – The definitions of ‘wrong people’ here can be so many. The wrong people can be negative people who always complain about problems and always have an excuse to justify their misfortunes. Stay away from these ‘vampires’ as they will suck all the positive blood flowing through your veins. They will eventually rub off some of their negativity onto you. The wrong people could be the people who are jealous of you for all the wrong reasons. The ‘right’ people however are the ones that stick by you when you most need them. When you’re at your best many will follow you but when you need help, how many will stick around offering their assistance?
Stop overlooking the details – It’s always the ‘small print’ that we overlook to read sometimes but it can change the meaning of the whole message. Just like reading grocery store brochures that are mailed to us where they will happily advertise “from 20th till 25th all food items at 30% discount”, and then underneath in small print you notice that it says “offer is valid for purchases above $100”. This is just an example but we experience the same things throughout our lives overlooking the details that mean so much to us. A friend might call you to just ask how you are, you don’t give it much consideration as you chat away, but isn’t that a nice gesture? Isn’t that person worth holding onto as a close friend?
Stop taking the easy way out – When things are tough or you have a decision to make your first reaction will be ‘which route is the easiest route to take’. It might be the easiest but if you take that road will you learn anything? Will it help you accomplish new things in your life? Will it help you come closer to your goals you have set yourself? The answers are probably ‘no’ because as long as you are in your ‘comfort zone’, things will always stay as they are. Stop doing what the majority does. Do the unexpected and outperform yourself; you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve.
How far a father will go to show his love for his child
How big can a little extra effort make?
There are 2 types of people in this world